Wisdom without eloquence is of little use to humanity and on the other hand,
eloquence without wisdom is extremely dangerous to humanity-- Cicero
So many times I have found myself saying things I ought not to say simply because I'm in someone's company and our discussions lead me there. Then I just take the plunge- gossip, slander, gossip, overstate and more gossip. Some I do not remember afterwards; some I repent of and promise myself not to ever speak that way again (lies, I still gossip); others boomerang in my face and make me wish I had better control of my impulses. When did I get to be this way?
I trace it back to when I started gaining more confidence in myself and feeling self-assured as my modest goals were met. They say success brings out the real you. Its true. Once I met my personal goals on time (circa 2009), I felt less and less humble. What made it worse was working with mostly females. Females who did not hide their feelings. They say it ho-ha and I started doing the same. My husband pointed it out many times but I rarely felt remorse. I was terrible and harsh when I got into comment mode. Sigh. I don't want to be unlovable or even despicable.
I use the past tense because I believe I'm overcoming this tendency, gaining control of my tongue. When I get there, it will be really great because I'm tired of getting into trouble with people.
eloquence without wisdom is extremely dangerous to humanity-- Cicero
So many times I have found myself saying things I ought not to say simply because I'm in someone's company and our discussions lead me there. Then I just take the plunge- gossip, slander, gossip, overstate and more gossip. Some I do not remember afterwards; some I repent of and promise myself not to ever speak that way again (lies, I still gossip); others boomerang in my face and make me wish I had better control of my impulses. When did I get to be this way?
I trace it back to when I started gaining more confidence in myself and feeling self-assured as my modest goals were met. They say success brings out the real you. Its true. Once I met my personal goals on time (circa 2009), I felt less and less humble. What made it worse was working with mostly females. Females who did not hide their feelings. They say it ho-ha and I started doing the same. My husband pointed it out many times but I rarely felt remorse. I was terrible and harsh when I got into comment mode. Sigh. I don't want to be unlovable or even despicable.
I use the past tense because I believe I'm overcoming this tendency, gaining control of my tongue. When I get there, it will be really great because I'm tired of getting into trouble with people.
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